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A Man’s Perspective: Six Sex Tips to Guarantee Satisfaction

Sep 15, 2012 07:00AM

Written by Craig Nielson

As a life coach, my goal is to empower women to always feel confident, secure, and self-assured in all that they do.  Therefore, what plays out in the bedroom should be no different.   Here are a few tips to help you grow in intimacy and have a mutually satisfying experience.

Know what you want and how to get it.  It is important to him to satisfy you. However, he cannot read your mind.  Tell him what is satisfying for you and don't be embarrassed about it.  Remember that you are expressing a part of who you are, which leads to greater intimacy. He really wants to know.

Get to know what he wants and give him the freedom to express himself without judgment.  The more you know about what excites him the more you will know what to do and not have to guess.  This also builds trust in the relationship and helps foster a stronger connection to each other.

Be honest.  If you are stressed and tired or just not in the mood, don't make excuses like you have a headache.  Tell him you are glad he desires you and explain why you are not into it at the moment.  Then offer to take a rain check, make a date and build anticipation for the next time for the both of you.

Be real.  Faking it leaves you dissatisfied and gives him a false sense that he performed well.  Should he arrive before you do, ask him to carry on in other ways you find stimulating.  Again, communication is key.  Knowing he has truly satisfied you will be much more fulfilling for both of you.

Dress for the occasion.  Men are visually stimulated.  Wearing lingerie shows him you are confident and engaged in the process.  You dress up for other special occasions, such as parties and weddings. Why would your most intimate occasion with the one you love be any different? Make it a celebration of your love for each other.

Be in touch with yourself and know why you are doing it.  If you are having sex to gain his favor, get his approval, or for fear he will reject you otherwise, check in with your self-esteem. Fear and insecurity cripple intimacy and can leave you feeling used and neglected.

When you are in a mutually satisfying relationship, you show up in the bedroom, and everywhere, feeling confident, self assured and complete just the way you are.   He will accept you unconditionally and you will have the freedom to be yourself, express yourself, and fully relish your time together.