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Being Happy With Being Single

By Craig Nielson

Sappy holiday love songs play on your radio and over the speakers in stores as you do your holiday shopping.  Countless commercials on television show the happy, adoring couples after he or she receives the ideal gift from the other.  Family gatherings can also be an occasion that accentuates your single status leaving you feeling depressed because you don't have that special someone to celebrate the holiday season with.

It doesn't have to be that way.  In fact, the holidays can offer you a unique opportunity to have fun and enjoy the season without feeling like you are alone.  First of all, you are not alone in being alone.  According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 43.6 percent of adults over the age of 18 are single.  So don't let the music, commercials, or family influence give you the impression that your being single is rare. It is not.

Here a few ideas on how to make your holiday season a happy time of year as it is meant to be while being single:


There will be plenty of holiday parties that you can attend.  Go to them, or host your own.  Don't get hung up by thinking things like others at the party will wonder what is wrong with you because you are single.  Don't go anticipating that all you are going to see is everyone else with their significant others.  Instead, look for opportunities to make new friends and create bridges of influence.  Get to know people.  Ask them what they like to do for fun. Be curious about them.  You will find that most people enjoy talking about themselves.  Talk about your interests.  The person you are talking to may just happen to know someone else who is single who might be a good match for you.  Network—you never know what opportunities might arise for you.


Think of someone who has had a significant influence in your life: a friend, a distant relative, a teacher, or a co-worker for example.  It could be anyone who has influenced your life profoundly in a positive way.  Do something extra special for this someone and make it personal.  Sometimes the people who have had the greatest impact on our lives are not aware of it because we never tell them.


There are many organizations that help needy people during the holidays.  Consider donating your time to your local food bank, soup kitchen or battered women's shelter.  Working with others who have less than you can help you really appreciate what you have instead of what you don't in terms of a relationship.  Besides, you never know whom you might meet while helping out.

Be Good (to Yourself)

Whatever money you would have spent on your boyfriend, if you had one, spend it on yourself.  Buy yourself a gift, something you have always wanted.  Buy tickets for a trip somewhere you have been dying to visit. Again, you never know who you might meet while you are there. 

Remember: "It's the most wonderful time of the year" (so says the late Andy Williams). But you have to make it that way.  Loneliness bites. It will drag you down if all you do is focus on being alone.  As the holidays draw near, start making plans to have fun and create opportunities. Get out and make this year one to remember.